WHAT’S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT?
This is one of my favorite weeks of the year! It was this week 24 years ago that I had my first date with my husband. Valentine’s Day is coming and I woke up this morning singing the legendary Tina Turner song, “What’s Love Got to Do With It.”
My immediate thought was love has everything to do with this week. It’s the time of year when husbands and wives can share their own tailored special night of candlelight and caviar or pizza and chocolate. Depending on the couple, anything goes. For years my husband always fried fish and shrimp for us to share on this special day. This day, more so than Christmas or birthdays, you can share each other’s company equally without the stress of buying presents for the entire family.
The day was first associated with romantic love in the Middle Ages and then down through the centuries recognized by many Christian denominations in honor of different martyred Saints. It’s evolved into a day where lovers express their love for each other with flowers, candy and cards. Valentine cards are also exchanged by children in schools with their teachers and the commercialization of the holiday has boosted card sales to over a billion.
How you spend, live and react to this day will depend on where you are in your love life. After all, it’s just another day. Right? This year it falls on a week end day which makes it extra special! You can start the weekend off with a romantic Friday night and celebrate the weekend with your significant other. You turn on the TV or radio and all you hear are love songs, and DJ’s talking about the most romantic places to take your loved one for dinner and dancing.
But, maybe not. Maybe you’re not one of the “lucky ones” who has a significant other. Maybe you’re facing this overly commercialized romantic holiday celebration alone. How do you feel this week? Relieved that you don’t have the expense or worry about choosing the correct gift or making reservations at the most popular restaurant. If I had to guess, I think not. I
think most people want to have and feel that security and love and connection to another person who cares about them.
God made us all desire and long for that human love and connection. After all, He made us in His likeness and He longs to hear from and hang out with us. He created Eve for Adam and said it was not good for man to be alone. He desired companionship. I know there have been times in my life when I’ve been alone and hurt and stated I didn’t care or it didn’t bother me to be alone but it was all a stubborn defensive attitude to protect my delicate feelings at the time. I was singing the second verse of Tina’s song during that time, “What’s love but a second hand emotion, who needs a heart when a heart can be broken.”
As we live this week and enjoy the people in our lives let’s try to remain aware of those suffering and alone. Let’s reach out to the stubborn lonely ones who may be facing a long weekend of feeling neglected and useless on this love holiday. Let’s use L.O.V.E. to help us remember who and how to do this.
L. Listen to what people are saying. Usually you can hear the desperation or calls for attention. Be sensitive to the words being spoken in your workplace or in your church from those who are alone. There are people in all areas of our life we need to reach out to and offer a kind remark or a gentle hug just to let them know we understand and care.
O. Open up and say those words of encouragement that will lift another’s spirits. One of the hardest things to do is to share your thoughts and feelings with someone who is not friendly or someone you don’t think cares about you. They may be acting this way because of their inferior complex and all it would take for them to turn around is you speaking and opening up to them.
V. Validate someone by letting them know what they are doing right. Our natural tendency is to look for the negative or pick out what someone has done wrong. Try, just for this week to pick out something they are doing right and then tell them you appreciate it. There is plenty of wrong in this world
and if we continually let our minds go in that direction we will become totally depressed. We all need to hear positive affirmative things from those we love.
E. Extend your heart and reach out your hand to those who may need encouragement this week. Let them know you are thinking about them. Leave a piece of chocolate or a little valentine on their desk or in their chair. People want to feel loved. The second commandment we received from Jesus was to go and love others. What better time to reach out than now.
So, in answer to Tina’s song, “What’s Love Got to do With It”, I would like to quote the scripture from 1 Corinthians, “And now these three remain faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Blessings to you,